LOVE YOUR JOB BY CHANGING YOUR PERCEPTION OF WORK
Despite sometimes wishing we didn’t have to work, we in fact need to. Work is not only about our survival but it is also necessary for us to develop and in maintaining our sanity!
WHAT DOES WORK DO FOR US?
It Gives Us A Purpose
Work gives us a purpose. We are at our best when we have something to work towards. Our daily task lists, our weekly things to do, and our long-term goals, all provide us with a drive to develop and in some cases, thrive. Work forces us to move forward.
It Employs our Skills
Working pushes us to use our brain by initiating different skill sets. It requires organisation, planning, problem solving, adaptation, evaluating and relating. All these skills are essential for healthy living.
It Provides Structure
Work brings structure to our lives. Structure is important to maintain a life/work balance, it helps regulate emotions and offers a source of containment.
It Instills Control
Work puts control into your hands where skills are learnt and challenges faced, and with this, achievements are made. Feeling and being in control leads to a sense of accomplishment.
It Can Reduce Stress
If approached properly work can reduce stress by providing all the benefits noted above, all of which are key to nourishing our development.
WHY DOES THE IDEA OF WORK CAUSE SO MUCH DREAD?
It is the negative connotations associated with the word “work” and act of “working” which initiates the vicious cycle of negative thinking. We create a long list of reasons why we should not do a task. A battle commences and we argue with ourselves as to why we should not, cannot, or do not want to work. The irony is we spend more time and energy convincing ourselves why we shouldn’t do something (which inevitably has to be done at some point) than it would take doing the task itself.
The dictionary defines the word work as an “activity involving mental or physical effort done in order to achieve a result.” I have told Life Studio followers many times that our brain will go down the path of least resistance, so anything which is perceived as effort has a predisposition to be difficult to instil because our brain already believes it is. Thus if we perceive that work is effort then we are already making things harder for ourselves. We have a default system of thinking a Task or Work is going to involve a lot of effort, and of course it involves effort, but that level of effort is not as high as we perceive it so. We have all, no doubt, come to realise that the experience is never as bad as it seems.
It is our negative thinking that gets the better of us when approaching our To Do list. We make excuses, we jump to conclusions, we think of the extremes, we battle and battle with it, putting it off in the cycle of procrastination and in doing so we waste a lot of time and energy. So how do we tackle this barrage of negative thinking?
TACKLING THE NEGATIVE PERCEPTION OF “WORK”
There are people who love their jobs. If you speak to them, you will often find they have a more positive outlook on the word “work”. It is part of their lifestyle not a necessity to maintain their lifestyle. We need to re-wire our Brain so our associations with the word Work are positive. Below are 3 steps to help you find your way to loving your job.
Steps to Re-Wire our Brain
- When that negative thought or feeling starts to rise come Sunday evening, repeat to yourself “it is never as bad as I think”.
- Counteract the negativity by telling your brain what it is that you are looking forward to, instead of focusing on all that you are not.
- Link action to Reward and write down all the benefits which will come out of completing a task.
Of course, there are other reasons why we have negative associations with work, and some do not enjoy their job, or have lost motivation for it. If this is the case perhaps it is time to think further about what your Job is doing for you by asking yourself these questions:
- Why am I in this job?
- What job would I like to be doing?
- How can I work towards getting the job I want?
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