THE IMPORTANCE OF INTIMACY
Intimacy is the basis of any real relationship. It is what makes us feel connected, cared for and loved. This in turn is important for our feelings of self-worth and in managing our moods. It needs constant work for the relationship to be sustainable.
HOW INTIMACY DEVELOPS
- Moulded through family interactions and relationships.
- Intimacy provides the link which creates the unique bond in a relationship.
- The foundation of intimacy, formed in childhood, is used as a template for relationships made outside the family unit.
- Intimacy builds and develops over time as the relationship becomes more known
- As we grow and establish commitment and trust outside the family we build other connections through work, play, sex, and shared experiences.
- We have an innate need to have intimate relationships in our lives impacting on our sense of well-being.
WHAT DOES INTIMACY FEEL LIKE?
- Increased feelings of acceptance, security, surety
- A recognition and respect of each other’s boundaries
- The pace of the growth of the relationship is balanced between the couple.
- Awareness and understanding of each partner’s relationship goals.
- A joint vision for future objectives for the relationships and equal prioritisation of the relationship with other self-development goals.
WHY CAN INTIMACY BE SO DIFFICULT
What is Intimacy all about and why is it so important in relationships? For something that seems so obvious and simple why do so many of us find it so difficult?
Many reasons why people struggle with intimacy is because it really isn’t so simple. It is complex and how it develops is based on many things.
SIGNS OF STRUGGLING WITH INTIMACY
- Being distant; cut off or aloof
- Difficulty with expressing affection
- Difficulty in getting close to someone physically
- Difficulty in getting close to someone emotionally
- Difficulty in opening up and sharing one’s thoughts and feelings
- Distorted view of intimacy either experienced or internalised (i.e. intimacy = sex)
REASONS WHY INTIMACY IS FEARED
- Fear of rejection
- Fear of being hurt
- Fear of exploitation
- Power struggles
- Inability to trust
- Past experiences
- Traumatic childhood experiences
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